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By: Sheila Johnson

Overcoming challenges and dealing with adversity are essential components of personal growth. They help build resilience and adaptability, crucial qualities for any individual. Such experiences encourage us to develop new skills and gain valuable insights into our capabilities and limits. Ultimately, every challenge we face and navigate successfully shapes us into more capable and robust individuals. Reach Counseling Solutions offers these helpful suggestions.

Embrace Life's Inevitable Challenges

Acknowledging that difficulties are a natural part of life helps you approach obstacles with a realistic mindset. By recognizing challenges as a normal occurrence, you can stay calm and focused, setting the foundation for effective problem-solving. Each time you face and overcome a challenge, you build confidence in your ability to handle similar situations. This continual process strengthens self-assurance and prepares you for future difficulties.

Simplify Complex Situations 

When challenges feel overwhelming, breaking them into smaller, manageable tasks can make them more approachable. This method not only simplifies the problem but also creates a clear pathway to resolution. Each small accomplishment builds momentum, empowering you to address the larger issue. Setting achievable goals helps maintain motivation, making it easier and less stressful to overcome obstacles.

Optimism and Strengths in Adversity 

A positive outlook during tough times is key to building resilience. Focusing on your strengths, rather than on weaknesses or the severity of the situation, helps you find effective solutions. A resilient mindset supports persistence and a proactive approach to problem-solving, essential for personal growth. By emphasizing positive outcomes and your abilities, you enhance your capacity to recover swiftly from setbacks.

Challenges as Opportunities 

Viewing challenges as opportunities can transform how you handle adversity. This mindset encourages proactive learning and development, turning each hurdle into a chance to gain new skills. By reducing the stress associated with difficulties, you enrich both your personal and professional life. Embracing this approach makes you more adaptable and better prepared for future challenges.

Adaptability in the Face of Change

Being open to change and willing to adjust your strategies as necessary is essential in today's ever-evolving world. Flexibility allows you to navigate through uncertainties more smoothly and emerge stronger on the other side. By remaining adaptable, you can pivot your plans to accommodate new information or changing circumstances, ensuring continuous progress towards your goals regardless of the obstacles that come your way.

Focus on What You Can Control

Concentrating your efforts on aspects of the situation that are within your control is another key to overcoming adversity. This approach minimizes wasted energy on elements beyond your influence and maximizes the efficacy of your actions. By focusing on what you can change, you are more likely to feel empowered and confident in your ability to manage the situation, leading to more effective problem resolution and personal growth.

From Adversity to Entrepreneurship

Overcoming adversity often inspires people to start their own ventures. This entrepreneurial spirit can lead to the formation of a sole proprietorship, where you are in complete control of your business. For those interested in establishing their own business, learning how to start a sole proprietorship in North Carolina is crucial, as it involves specific legal and financial steps. Operating as a sole proprietor allows you to reap the full benefits of your efforts and make all the decisions, promoting both professional growth and personal satisfaction.

Develop Your Emotional Intelligence

Enhancing your emotional intelligence by becoming more aware of your own emotions and those of others around you can significantly improve how you respond to adversity. This awareness facilitates better communication, improves relationships, and fosters a supportive network, all of which are invaluable when facing challenges. By understanding and managing your emotions, you can approach adversity with a calm, focused mindset that is conducive to finding solutions.

Overcoming challenges and dealing with adversity are essential components of personal growth. They help build resilience and adaptability, crucial qualities for any individual. Such experiences encourage us to develop new skills and gain valuable insights into our capabilities and limits. Ultimately, every challenge we face and navigate successfully shapes us into more capable and robust individuals.

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About the author

Shelila Johnson is a ZENthusiast. She makes self-care a priority now that she’s seen the consequences when she doesn’t. She found a routine that balances work life with taking care of her mental, emotional, and physical health. You may find more information about Sheila on her website at www.wellsheila.net.

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By Sheila Johnson

If you are like most adults, you may be used to missing out on a little sleep each night. The CDC estimates that one in three adults in America is missing out on essential sleep nearly every single night. Even worse, children can struggle with sleep as well. Over time, a lack of sleep not only hurts our physical health, but it also takes a toll on our mental health.

Good news is that there are affordable solutions to help prevent sleep deprivation and promote health and wellness without doing serious damage to your bank account. Reach Counseling Solutions gives some budget-friendly steps to take now.

Refresh Your Bedrooms       

 Quality sleep often starts in the bedroom. If yours is brightly lit, too warm, or just not very cozy, it could be making it more difficult to relax at night. Keeping rooms dark with blackout curtains and blinds sends a signal to your brain that it’s time for rest. You can also keep your bedroom cooler with lower thermostat settings and fans. If you or your child prefers white noise, you can play it wirelessly using a Bluetooth speaker. Having the right mattress can also keep you sleeping through the night and help you avoid feeling sore and stiff the next morning.

 Diffusing essential oils is another way to set your bedrooms up for a good night’s rest. Aromatherapy has been used for thousands of years to help calm the senses and the mind. Lavender, Sandalwood and Roman Chamomile are just a few choices that will assist getting to sleep and staying asleep, which is essential for our wellbeing.

 Stay on a Consistent Schedule  

 If your family’s bedtimes vary between the week and weekend, it could have a negative impact on the overall quality of your sleep. Kids and adults can benefit from a consistent schedule at night and during the day. So as hard as it may seem, you should make sure everyone goes to bed at roughly the same time every night. Help your kids get better sleep by setting their bedtime and making them stick to it as much as possible.

 Younger kids tend to wake up fine on their own in the mornings, but teenagers may need a little encouragement to get out of bed early on the weekends. Make a point to set a schedule for them and yourself to keep your circadian rhythms in check. If you miss out on sleep, there is some evidence that making it up over the weekend can have benefits. But it’s not a good habit to get into, as a lack of sleep can lead to health issues. 

 Exercise and Play During the Day       

 When you think of sleep, you probably don’t give a lot of thought to exercise. There is, however, a direct connection between staying active and sustaining healthy sleep habits, as noted in Psychology Today. Adults and kids need to be active to promote quality sleep. Exercise and play can also encourage your brain to produce more endorphins, which aid in the reduction of pain and keep you feeling relaxed. Any type of cardio, like walking or using the elliptical, can help significantly improve the quality of your sleep, as can lifting weights and doing yoga.

Watch What You Eat Before Bed

 A midnight snack can satisfy your cravings, but if you choose the wrong foods, you could be sabotaging your sleep. You already know that caffeinated beverages can keep you up at night. What you may not realize, however, is that trace amounts of caffeine can also be found in your favorite munchies, such as certain chocolates, chocolate ice cream and even cereals. Avoid snacking on these foods in the hours before bed, and keep them away from kids as well.

You may also want to avoid spicy foods at dinner and keep your plate clear of anything else that may give you heartburn or indigestion at bedtime. If you do get hungry in the evening hours, try another healthy snack instead, like dried fruit and nuts, peanut butter and crackers or an apple with a few cheese slices.

All humans need sleep to survive. Make sure your family gets the rest they need by taking these steps to improve their sleep habits and help them live healthier lives.

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About the author

Shelila Johnson is a ZENthusiast. She makes self-care a priority now that she’s seen the consequences when she doesn’t. She found a routine that balances work life with taking care of her mental, emotional, and physical health. You may find more information about Sheila on her website at www.wellsheila.net.

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By Carmen Zuniga

Trauma bonding is a psychological response to abuse.

In other words, it is when someone forms a bond with someone who is emotionally or physically abusive. Typically, people who were abused as children usually form trauma bonds because they are accustomed to the cycle of abuse. A trauma bond is when one person forms an attachment to someone that shows them kindness and possibly showers them with gifts and affection. However, soon after the gifts and affection, they emotionally abuse their partner, and a cycle of abuse begins.

What is the cycle of abuse?

The cycle of abuse looks like this: the abuser causes harm; this could be lying, having an affair, verbal abuse, or even physical abuse. After the abuse, the abuser shows remorse and attempts to make up for their behavior. This can be through being romantic or buying flowers and apologizing. They may promise to change, and this gives the abused person hope that the abuse will never happen again, and the abuser’s behavior has changed. Unfortunately, things will remain calm for a short period of time, but soon after the abuser will repeat previous abuse and the cycle will continue.

What are the signs that a trauma bond has occurred?

The major sign is when the abused partner justifies the abuser’s behavior. They make excuses for the abuser and sometimes distance themselves from friends or family that encourage them to leave. Common things said are: “They’re just under a lot of stress right now”, “It’s my fault; I made them react that way”, or “I understand why they had to treat me that way.”

How can the trauma bond be broken?

There are many strategies one can use to leave an abusive relationship. However, if someone has formed a trauma bond, the leaving process will not be easy, and often therapy is needed for extra support.

• Keeping a journal can help the abusee keep log of all the times the abuse has occurred. This will help when they are in the hopeful part of the cycle. Keeping a log of events will aide in revealing the cycle of abuse.

• Looking at the relationship from a different perspective will also give some insight. For example, what advice would you give a friend who was in the same situation? Would you encourage them to leave or tell them to stay?” The abusee should also obtain a support group. This group can consist of friends, family, and even a therapist. Loved ones can offer an important perspective and insight into the situation.

• Avoid negative self-talk, self-blame, and engage in self-care. It is never the abusee’s fault that they were abused, no matter the circumstance. Challenging any negative self-talk that enters the mind is essential as well. Reframing the negative statements to positive self-talk will be empowering, but it will also take practice.

• Cut off contact completely if possible. The abuser will insist they are changing but remind yourself of how many times this has already happened. After contact is cut off, professional help may be needed. A therapist can help explore why the trauma bond was formed and what a healthy relationship looks like.

About the Author

Carmen Zuniga is a contributor to Reach Counseling Solutions, PLLC. She is also a counselor educator, wife, mom with experience with working with women who have experienced trauma and abusive relationships.

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Anyone who’s ever changed jobs knows how stressful the transition can be, even if they’ve been in the workforce a long time. The excitement of a new opportunity also comes with worries. The experience can be even more daunting for those who are re-entering the workforce after a long period of unemployment, whether due to a layoff, termination, or the opportunity to raise a family.

If you’re having difficulty finding work, then you probably already feel an oppressive amount of stress. Fear not, though. There are things you can do to bring in some money while you wait to hear, “You’re hired.”

Do a personal skills inventory as you undergo a job search. Ask yourself what skills you can put to use right now as you look for a job. For example, are you good with a camera? If you don’t want to try to set up your own photography business, some professional photographers might need assistants when they shoot weddings or other social events. Do you have craft skills? Consider setting up a shop on Etsy to sell your products. Do you play a musical instrument or are you a trained singer? You can become a music teacher and offer lessons either at your home or at students’ homes. Plus, even when you start working full time, you can still perform many of these gigs as side jobs.

If you don’t have a specialized skill set, you could offer personal services. For instance, if you love animals, pet sitting is a growing field that needs reliable people. As a pet sitter, you would feed, walk, and spend time with your clients’ animals (mostly dogs, but some people also use sitters for cats and even large birds). If you have your own transportation, you might think about becoming an errand runner for senior citizens who can’t make it out of their houses every day to take care of tasks such as picking up dry cleaning or going to the grocery store. In addition to running errands, you can also offer yourself as a waiting service, where you would be hired to wait at a home for plumbing, cable, satellite TV, internet, or appliance repair technicians if the resident can’t be there.

What’s great about having these types of short-term gigs is that your schedule is a little more flexible so that you can be readily available for job interviews. While retail and restaurant jobs are definitely an option, your schedule might not be as flexible with them, and if you’re scheduled to work when you have an interview, you’ll probably need to find someone to cover for you or switch shifts. Plus, if you’re starting a new business of your own, it could even become a long-term, full-time gig.

If that happens to be a goal (or even a hope!), it’s in your best interest to start out properly. In other words, begin things professionally and officially, and you’ll frame things positively, right off the bat. That means creating a practical budget, writing a business plan that addresses your goals, choosing a business structure, and registering with your state.

Projections and marketing analyses will help with both your budget and business plan; the SBA has some terrific guides to help you along. As far as your structure, weigh your options carefully. Many new entrepreneurs prefer an LLC, thanks to the personal asset protection, scalability, and tax advantages it provides. Plus if you go that direction, it’s easy to form an LLC in NC and register with your state by going through an online service. You’ll be glad you went the extra mile with these steps — by treating your venture as a formal business, you set yourself up for success.

No matter which type of side gig you choose while you wait to become hired full time, keep in mind that these career and financial challenges can trigger all kinds of stress. If you need to develop a set of coping skills to get through this challenging part of your life, find support through Reach Counseling Solutions. 504-224-9959

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A short resource guide to help you find your mellow

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By Sheila Johnson

Are your days more frazzled than they are fun? While adulting tends to be pretty serious at times, that doesn’t mean your life needs to be all about stress. In fact, if you’re feeling chronically stressed, it can take a toll on your well-being. Reach Counseling Solutions, PLLC has pulled together some resources to encourage you to give stress the heave-ho, once and for all!

Why You Need to Cut Stress

Stress can affect both your mental and physical health.

7 Strange Things Stress Can Do to Your Body

The Mind and Mental Health: How Stress Affects the Brain

How Does Stress Influence Behavior?

11 Signs and Symptoms of Too Much Stress

How to Relieve Stress

Take Advantage of Stress-Busting Services and Products

Learn about some services and products that can alleviate tension and make you feel more relaxed.

Counseling Sessions with Reach Counseling Solutions, PLLC Can Help You Relieve Stress

10 Huge Benefits of Therapeutic Massage
How to Reduce Stress Naturally with Acupuncture

How Reiki Can Help Reduce Stress & Anxiety

16 Popular Self-Care Products Under $30

Make Your Home a Haven

There are many modifications you can make to your home to make it a stress-free space.

Steps to Remove Negativity from the Home

15 Paint Colors That Reduce Stress

10 Best Indoor Plants for Anxiety and Stress Relief

 Burn Off Tension and Negative Energy

Exercise is not only beneficial for your body -- it can provide a big mental health boost, too.

Use a Fitness App for Easy Access to Various Exercise Videos

Working Out to Relieve Stress

9 Ways Mountain Biking Can Boost Your Mental Health

Yoga for Inner Peace: A Stress-Relieving Sequence + Daily Practice Challenge

Are you ready to kiss stress goodbye? Adjust your home environment, raise your activity levels, and add some stress-busting pro services to your health regimen. You’ll never have to feel the negative effects of stress again!

Shelila Johnson is a ZENthusiast. She makes self-care a priority now that she’s seen the consequences when she doesn’t. She found a routine that balances work life with taking care of her mental, emotional, and physical health. You may find more information about Sheila on her website at www.wellsheila.net.