by Shiela Johnson

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Change is usually hard to cope with, but it’s even more challenging if it’s unexpected. Most of us could never have anticipated how much of an impact COVID-19 would have on our lives. Even though the pandemic is slowing down in many areas, it continues to affect just about every aspect of our daily lives. Below, find ways to cope with the changes so you can feel your best and thrive under the new norm.

Establish Routines

Quarantine measures have been relaxed in most places, but it’ll be awhile until you can go out in the community to do everything you used to. You’re probably still spending more time than usual at home even with restrictions being lifted. With so much unstructured time, it’s crucial that you develop routines to maintain your mental health.

Not only do routines create stability, they also help you stay on task and reduce stress. If your old routines have been put on hold due to the pandemic, it may help to work on establishing new ones. If you don’t know where to start, try developing a nightly ritual or making a daily yoga or exercise goal.

Bedtime rituals will help you relax and may even improve the quality of your sleep. Given that sleep is so important for your mental and physical health, striving for good sleep habits is one of the best things you can do for yourself.

Refocus on Your Goals

Being stuck inside can feel like a drag, but it also provides a perfect opportunity for self-reflection. With more down time, you will have more chances to meditate on things such as your career, relationships, fitness, finances, and personal goals. If you don’t have any specific ideas for making progress in these areas right now, spend some time setting goals.

Make a Career Move

Many people have begun to reconsider their careers in light of the pandemic. For example, the pandemic may have made you realize that you want more job security, or that you want a more flexible career that allows you to work from home.

Becoming a freelancer is one of the best ways to launch a work-from-home career that allows you to put your skills to work. For example, if you’re skilled with image-editing software, becoming a professional photo editor is a perfect way to turn your talents into a career.

Focus on Your Mental Health

The pandemic has caused a number of negative mental health effects in the general population, such as increased anxiety and depression. However, Medical News Today highlights the fact that the mental health impact has been even greater among minority groups and people of color.

Now more than ever, it’s important to seek out mental health help. The pandemic shouldn't stop you from getting help if you need it. There are many ways to seek out mental health help through text, by phone, or in person. You can also use online therapy from Reach Counseling Solutions. Online therapy is often easier to fit into your schedule, but during the pandemic, it also allows you to get help while staying at home.

Find Ways to Be Self-Sufficient

It’s empowering and comforting to be able to be self-sufficient and take care of things yourself. However, it’s downright stressful if you’re not prepared. For many people, the pandemic has revealed a lot of areas where more preparation is necessary. For example, if you’ve been cutting your own hair or cooking more meals at home due to pandemic closures, it’s easier if you’ve got the right tools for the job. Having shears, clippers, and other personal grooming supplies on hand can make all the difference if you can’t make it to the salon. Likewise, having good cooking gear can make or break a home-cooked meal.

Coping with the pandemic is a challenge on many levels. While some things will return to normal once all the restrictions are lifted, other things will likely be forever changed. Being able to adapt to new circumstances will help you thrive no matter what changes become permanent after the pandemic is over.

Shelila Johnson is a ZENthusiast. She makes self-care a priority now that she’s seen the consequences when she doesn’t. She found a routine that balances work life with taking care of her mental, emotional, and physical health. You may find more information about Sheila on her website at www.wellsheila.net.

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By: Sheila Johnson

We live in a world that is always moving; it’s busy and sometimes chaotic. In the midst of the hustle and the bustle, it’s easy to neglect self-care. Unfortunately, it’s a vicious cycle. We try to get as much done as possible, forget to take care of ourselves, and because we forget to take care of ourselves we can’t operate at our peak, causing our productivity to suffer.

If you find yourself in this situation, you can turn things around, even when money is tight and time is limited. Here’s some advice for working budget-friendly self-care into your routine.

For the Under the Weather Days

No one ever plans to feel sick and experience symptoms that range from a runny nose to a rash, from a cough to an upset stomach. To prevent or lessen the symptoms that can get you down in your moment of need, prepare in advance by having a well-stocked medicine cabinet. Particularly in the COVID-19 era, it’s apparent how important it is to have the necessities.

We’re not talking about hoarding or spending a ton of money on goods, but you should acquire what most households need in one calendar year and spend what you’d spend annually anyway. In addition to having meds for the common headache, allergies, and coughs, you should also have some flu medication accessible. According to Fitter Living, a good flu medication won’t cure or prevent the flu, but it will help alleviate symptoms such as sore throat, fever, body aches, and so forth.

Move and Groove

Getting your body moving at least 30 minutes a day will do wonders for you mentally and physically. Physical activity doesn’t require an expensive gym membership. For a low price or no cost, there are thousands of online videos that can walk you through almost any type of exercise right from your own home.

Alternatively, you can simply get outdoors and hit the pavement. You can get a great workout with a daily walk or run, use your body as a natural weight, and work on balance and flexibility. You can also get some inexpensive weights, resistance bands, jump rope, and a yoga mat to make your own gym for whatever workout you want to do.

Clear Your Mind

We take care of our loved ones, work, pets, home, and potentially our physical well-being (i.e. nourishment, sleep, exercise), but oftentimes forget to take care of our mental health. Unfortunately, neglecting our mental health sometimes doesn’t come to light until the pot is already boiling over. To make sure you remain centered, here are some things you can do:

●     Keep a journal.

●     Mediate either on your own or through inexpensive subscriptions to walk you through it.

●     See a counselor/therapist (many insurances will cover the majority, if not all the costs).

●     Depending on how it affects you, avoid too much or all caffeine.

●     Take time off from work (use vacation time and personal time).

●     Find a calming activity before bed.

You Are What You Eat

The food you eat impacts you physically and mentally. Not only does food play a key role in your weight, but it is critical for your organs to function well, for your skin to look great, and to increase and maintain your energy. Additionally, too much junk food and not enough fruits, vegetables, and protein will result in brain fog, memory issues, and fatigue.

Aim to have the right daily proportions of fruits, veggies, nuts, seeds, whole grains, lean meats, and fish. Healthy eating doesn’t have to be expensive; you can save money if you shop in-season, stick to simple ingredients that you can reuse, and shop at the right places.

Investing in your self-care is not selfish or a waste of time. You will be your best self, more productive, and better equipped to help others if your needs are met. Some of your self-care will require payment, such as doctor appointments and vitamins, but others, like exercise and mental health management, are either low in cost or free. There is no reason not to do what you can to take care of yourself and make a habit out of it.

Shelila Johnson is a ZENthusiast. She makes self-care a priority now that she’s seen the consequences when she doesn’t. She found a routine that balances work life with taking care of her mental, emotional, and physical health. You may find more information about Sheila on her website at www.wellsheila.net.

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As a child, I grew up around people who struggled with addictions and words like Codependency, addictive personality, and even “addict behavior” became very common to me. It wasn’t until I was in graduate school that I learned that Codependency doesn’t always have to be related directly to caring for a person with an addiction. Generally speaking, anyone in relationships, whether romantic or friendly can be co-dependent. By definition, Codependency is “ a behavioral condition in a relationship where one person enables another person's addiction, poor mental health, immaturity, irresponsibility, or under-achievement. Among the core characteristics of codependency is an excessive reliance on other people for approval and a sense of identity.” It is NOT a mental health disorder.

Typically, codependent relationships are one-sided where one person is giving disporportionately to the other person by sacrificing their needs. In sacrificing, one partner may be attempting to please the other person. While “people pleasing” is another hot button topic, one thing that is a consistent theme for many codependent people is trauma and even childhood emotional neglect. It isn’t always about making someone else happy; for many it is often an act of survival that they may have learned as a child and it can feel very shameful.

8 Signs that you may be codependent:

• You may be very self-critical.

• You carry a lot of guilt and shame.

• You have difficulty setting boundaries.

• You may be quick to ignore your own feelings and needs in order to focus on the needs and feelings of someone else.

• You may focus on other people’s problems even if it negatively affects your physical health, mental health, or even your finances.

• Trust, intimacy, and connecting with others may be a struggle.

• Routines, predictability, and consistency are majorly important to you.

• You may overwork or overschedule yourself.

Can you recover from codependency?

Consistent therapy is recommended if you struggle with codependency. Typical treatment often involves getting in touch with deep-rooted feelings of hurt, loss, and even anger will help to reconstruct healthy relationship dynamics. If you think that you may be codependent and you are ready for help to explore your relationships, please contact us for more information about appointments.

By Brandi Lewis, M.Ed, LPC

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The concept of acceptance plays a major role in yoga. However, as much as we want to focus on acceptance, we all have goals we want to achieve too. The truth is that balance can be found in accepting where we are, while at the same time, adding the necessary tools to move forward.

Get Tech Savvy

The tried and true way to achieve any goal is to practice frequently and consistently. Many people can’t get to a studio as often as they’d like, and for some, the cost of yoga is a barrier to attending classes. A simple solution is to utilize our tech devices for an easy and affordable way to practice at home.

For example, a streaming device is one tool that costs less than yoga classes, and for this minimal investment, you can access a host of digital yoga classes. This gives you the opportunity to choose the instructor and type of yoga that’s best for what you’re working to achieve, without any limits on how often you can practice. Before buying a media streamer, we recommend that you compare streaming devices to make sure you find something that easily works with your TV (as well as your budget).

Another essential tool for doing more yoga at home, or anywhere for that matter, is something everyone has in their pocket or pocketbook: your phone. AppGrooves breaks down the best yoga apps based on the different features they offer. For example, Yoga Down Dog is perfect if you’re trying to carve out time for a quick yoga session anywhere, whereas Yoga for Weight Loss is ideal if you want more of a challenge.

Take Full Advantage of Props

Most yogis have used props at the suggestion of an instructor, but are you aware of the full benefits they can provide? Props have several different functions, depending on how you use them, but their overall purpose is to improve your practice. For example, one use of a block is to add strength to certain poses because it forces you to work muscles in a different way.

Props are also perfect for working toward a more challenging pose. This is because they serve as an extension of your body, making a pose more accessible as you build the strength and flexibility to reach those higher level poses. When you’re working towards yoga goals, you can’t expect results overnight, but props can be the bridge that helps you get from where you are to where you want to be.

Expand Your Yoga Universe

One of the amazing benefits of yoga is that it helps you destress and set your worries aside. But do you pick them back up again as soon as your practice is over? We can’t expect yoga alone to eliminate stress from our lives, but we can all benefit from taking yoga principles out into the world with us. Not to mention, integrating yoga concepts throughout your life can lead to a vast improvement in your practice.

Do You Yoga recommends adding meditation to your everyday routine. Doing this will help you maintain that sense of calm that comes from a great yoga session, and in turn, your increased sense of mindfulness will aid in maintaining a greater focus on the mat.

Another way to boost your yoga game is to work on developing strength and balance outside of yoga. Even if you’re short on time, most of us can squeak in a quick HIIT workout at home to gain extra strength. You may also benefit from investing in an exercise ball, or even a yoga chair, to work your core and increase balance.

Sometimes all it takes to achieve growth is a willingness to think outside the box (and the yoga studio) and try something new. After all, yoga is all about flexibility and stretching. It’s only when you’re flexible and willing to stretch out of your comfort zone that you can expect to grow into the best version of yourself.

About the Author

Sheila Johnson is a ZENthusiast. She makes self-care a priority now that she’s seen the consequences when she doesn’t. She found a routine that balances work life with taking care of her mental, emotional, and physical health. You may find more information about Sheila on her website at www.wellsheila.net.